"KMarino" (KMarino)
08/27/2015 at 13:12 • Filed to: None
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"KMarino" (KMarino)
08/27/2015 at 13:12 • Filed to: None | 0
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I need your help. Last year I went on a motorcycle trip. !!!error: Indecipherable SUB-paragraph formatting!!!
I had a blast, but haven’t been in a bike since. I’ve been wanting to get a bike for a few months. Only problem is my wife doesn’t want me to have one.
I talked to her about it and her biggest concern is that other drivers don’t see/pay attention to motorcycles and they will run into me and kill or injure me.
I know this concern is real, but I haven’t found a good argument against it. My only thoughts is that as a responsible rider you have to pay attention and avoid situations where other vehicles can harm you.
Any advice for how to overcome this obstacle?
Shamoononon drives like a farmer
> KMarino
08/27/2015 at 13:16 |
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Just about everything kills you.
Twingo Tamer - About to descend into project car hell.
> KMarino
08/27/2015 at 13:16 |
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Well technically she's right tbh.
Snuze: Needs another Swede
> KMarino
08/27/2015 at 13:17 |
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Basically that is the only argument. Also, you could tell her that you’ll always wear your gear, and get some good gear. I saw in your link above that you wore a full face helmet and white and silver riding jacket (assuming that was you in the first pic on the Nightster). If you don’t still have that gear, or that’s not you, something similar to that getup would be perfect.
McMike
> KMarino
08/27/2015 at 13:19 |
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I talked to her about it and her biggest concern is that other drivers don’t see/pay attention to motorcycles and they will run into me and kill or injure me.
This is not going to be an easy one.
No matter how many times you promise to be careful, how many safety books you read, how many classes you take, how much bright yellow gear you wear, or how much experience you have, she has chosen the perfect argument……
You have no control over other people. :(
Tekamul
> KMarino
08/27/2015 at 13:20 |
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More life insurance.
Or convince her that you’re a safe person, and statistacally, your most likely to die on a motorcycle as an 18 year old kid, or 56 year old dentist. Assuming you are neither, it’s not that bad.
ttyymmnn
> KMarino
08/27/2015 at 13:22 |
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Any advice for how to overcome this obstacle?
Listen to your wife.
Mr. Ontop, No Strokes, No Smokes...Goes Fast.
> KMarino
08/27/2015 at 13:25 |
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Were you a rider before you got married? If so, remind her of that. It won’t change the fact that she’s right, but it may remind her that it is a part of who you are.
Source: I’m also a married rider looking for a new bike.
MonkeePuzzle
> KMarino
08/27/2015 at 13:27 |
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offer to not ride it during high traffic times, like your commute etc. and just as a weekend toy?
Nonster
> KMarino
08/27/2015 at 13:56 |
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The unfortunate truth is that you have zero control over the other people on the road.
But! That doesn’t mean you can’t make efforts to stack the deck in your favor. Hi-viz gear might seem tacky to some, but it makes you much easier to be seen. I’m not quite a rabid ATGATT guy, but (I wear most gear all the time) wearing the right gear greatly increases your survivability.
Also, you might not be able to stop that car from dropping their coffee and swerving into your lane, but you can work on recognizing the higher risk scenarios and positions in traffic. Avoid being boxed-in, always have an escape route, etc. I would recommend committing to taking more of the MSF classes as its a good way to keep all of these skills fresh and in good practice.
Motocycling is inherently more risky and you and your wife have to come to terms with that, but there is plenty you can do to minimize those risks.
TheRealBicycleBuck
> KMarino
08/27/2015 at 14:01 |
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I gave up a lot of things when I got married and the first child came along - owning a motorcycle was one of them.
Now that the kids are closer to college age, the subject of doing some fun/dangerous things has come up again. She surprised me with this: get the right safety gear, get the right toy(s), and buy PLENTY of life insurance. Then, and only then, would she give her blessing.
450X_FTW
> KMarino
08/27/2015 at 14:21 |
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Start with you’ll only use it around town, slow speed areas, or out on the country roads were there’s no traffic
Tripper
> KMarino
08/27/2015 at 14:38 |
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Riding is a calculated risk, there is no real way to guarantee your safety. My advice is to go and get the bike then see what happens, shes not going to divorce you over it right? The only time my fiancee gives me a hard time about the motorcycle is when I ride helmet only, so I don’t do that lol. I know she does not agree with me spending all of the money that I do on vehicles, but she knows that it’s part of who I am and as long as I’m not spending money that we need to use other places she does not fuss about it. A payment on a motorcycle will likely be less than your cable bill, so there is that.